These ebooks can only be redeemed by recipients in the US. I did enjoy this and found it an interesting set of observations on French child-rearing. While finding her own firm non, Druckerman discovers that children - including her own - are capable of feats she'd never imagined. Druckerman provides fascinating details about French sleep training, feeding schedules and family rituals. An American woman’s risk of dying during pregnancy or delivery is 1 in 4,800; in France it’s 1 in 6,900.1. I read this book when my son was 5 months old and immediately recognized some of the humorous but true notes the author dictates about American parenting in her book. They talked about future editorships. That is the conclusion that readers may draw from Bringing Up Bébé.” — The Wall Street Journal And anyway, I hadn’t been watching them. We have breakfast at the hotel. I interview dozens of parents and experts. He’s in his element being a foreigner. And like me, they find the primitive, mammalian event happening inside their bodies to be uncomfortably out of their control. Though I’m caught up in my Anglophone whirlwind of eating and worrying, I can’t help but notice that Anne and the other pregnant Frenchwomen I come to know handle their pregnancies very differently. This bears out my own observations in Paris and on trips back home to the United States: there’s something about the way the French parent that makes it less of a grind and more of a pleasure. It is also really fun and entertaining to read. Please try again. But now, in France, I’ve glimpsed another way. Then we switch. Maybe it all starts with childhood. I’m sitting in a café when a well-dressed woman interrupts me to describe a new study showing that consuming a lot of caffeine increases the risk of miscarriage. So are the American parents I compare them to. This book set the course for parenting in my early days of motherhood. “He explained to me, ‘You seem like a fairly reasonable person. . French parenting isn't a known thing, like French fashion or French cheese. There Are No Grown-ups: A Midlife Coming-of-Age Story. “What are you thinking about?” I ask him periodically, usually when he’s reading a newspaper. (Though he’s of average height, he later adds “short” to this list, since he grew up in Holland among blond giants.) There's a problem loading this menu right now. People I’ve worked with for years say nothing or avoid my desk. I was commuting between South America and New York. I crave lemon on everything, and entire loaves of bread. Long after I clear out my desk, my editor—who was out of town when the ax fell—insists that I return to the office for a humiliating debriefing, in which he suggests that I apply for a lower-ranking job, then rushes off to lunch. A father in Paris warns my husband not to stand at the “business end” during the birth, to preserve my feminine mystique. While some American toddlers are getting Mandarin tutors and preliteracy training, French kids are—by design—often just toddling around by themselves. The residents are a mix of artists, young professionals, mysteriously underemployed people, and elderly women who hobble precariously on the uneven stones. Unlike me, the French mothers I meet distinguish between the things that are almost definitely damaging and those that are dangerous only if they’re contaminated. A month later I meet his parents in London. It quickly becomes clear that having a child in France doesn’t require choosing a parenting philosophy. French parents are very concerned about their kids.1 They know about pedophiles, allergies, and choking hazards. Of course French mothers-to-be aren’t just calmer than we are. Tellingly, the Pregnancy Diet says that I can “cheat” with the occasional fast-food cheeseburger or glazed donut. When I show him how to make salad dressing using oil and vinegar, he writes down the recipe and still pulls it out years later whenever he makes dinner. He calls this style “semidetached,” like a London town house. If I did, I might have to throw my enormous body over the table to stop them. He says my dental plan will end on my last day at the newspaper. Reviewed in the United States on July 17, 2017. “Bringing Up Bébé is a must-read for parents who would like their children to eat more than white pasta and chicken fingers.” — Fox News “On questions of how to live, the French never disappoint. And anyway, I rarely stayed in a city long enough to reach the third date. I’m not bothered by the famous Parisian rudeness. Like me, they probably just absorb a certain worried tone and state of mind. And yet he almost never actually laughs, even when I’m attempting a joke. But our jobs don’t require us to be here. But within a few minutes she starts spilling salt shakers and tearing apart sugar packets. I’d like three, in fact. Maybe I find it shallow to fall for a city just because it’s so good-looking. Pediatricians feel free to comment on a mother’s postpregnancy belly when she brings her baby for a checkup. It turns out that to be a different kind of parent, you don’t just need a different parenting philosophy. Listen to Slate’s show about the Susan G. Komen kerfuffle, Bringing Up Bébé, and Pinterest. Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting (now with Bébé . My big issue with the book is that she emphasizes in nearly every chapter, multiple times that she is middle class and that she is talking and gathering opinions from middle class parents. Even if they grow up to be geeks, they can mention “growing up in Paris” and be instantly cool. So does practically every French baby book and parenting magazine I read. I lived in France for year and had already been introduced to the books, French Women Don't Get Fat and French Kids Eat Everything so I was already a bit biased towards French culture. Bringing Up Bebe has been popping up on my various radar screens for weeks, and I've been at my wit's end with my newly minted three year old lately, so I especially love to read about how Americans perceive French life; I suppose this is an example of me living vicariously through my book choices. 0:05. Parenting magazines run long features on how to minimize the damage that pregnancy does to your breasts. However Disappointed with the content, as it seems to be a repetition of French Children Don't Throw food which I already own. Lists of pregnancy cravings seem like a catalog of foods that women have been denying themselves since adolescence: cheesecake, milkshakes, macaroni and cheese, and Carvel ice-cream cake. On the one hand, middle-class French parents have values that look very familiar to me. 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