When someone is a total dick to us, itâs an ideal time to reflect on how wonderful the good eggs are. Donât let anyoneâs hate, drama, and negativity keep you from being the person God wants you to be. Thatâs right! I feel like God brings us closer to certain people because these are the people we need in our lives right now. In one of the class sessions, the facilitator suggested they write a letter to the person who had hurt them. If God is So Good, Why Does He Let Me Hurt? While praying for the one who hurt you, avoid picturing him. God wants us to protect ourselves from harmful Toxic People. 136. Dear God, Your righteous anger toward evil overshadows the pain in my heart and allows me to forgive as You are righteously angry for me. We have hurt God far more than anyone has ever hurt us, for we have rejected Him and gone our own way. They might be people who have a lot of needs, and a few people I have counseled have told me that they are being used, and they finally had enough. Lean on your support network. It makes me feel safe and secure. Distance yourself and never let them see you suffer. But God still loves usâand the proof is Jesus Christ, who gave His life to make our forgiveness possible. I could hate you. Believe it or not, there are ways to deal with people who have hurt you. Yes, it is. Say, âGod I confess I like being in control. Jenn commented: Forgiving takes time. Itâs a legitimate question, and it deserves a thoughtful answer that honors the amount of pain attached to it. But I know that being a control freak isnât going to get me anywhere. Let people help you even when you donât really need it. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance the Lord will bring you today. God made us in His image and likeness. So I suggest you go before God and ask him to show you ways to increase his attraction to you. When you forgive someone that hurt you, what you are actually doing is accessing the wisdom inside of your anger, integrating that wisdom into your life, and then, CHOOSING to let the anger go. They may hurt you emotionally or physically or both. I will never forget that while I explained the breakup to a friend and tried to hide my tears, she told me, "You are one who loves much." Here are some prayer points that may help you deal with hurt with wisdom and grace: Pray for God to search your wounded heart (Psalm 139:23). If youâre like me and you crave control, the remedy for change is prayer. I want to write to you so I can let you know that you have let me down. Whatever else you believe about God, you and God have love in common. For those who resist Godâs will, they will be cast out into outer darkness where the demons will control them. It makes me feel like I have a purpose. Especially when itâs a parent, spouse, or someone you just canât cut out of your life so easily. Someone Else. Writing a letter of forgiveness to someone who hurt you is the best therapy you get. But I am letting [God] take it from my hands and letting Him handle it. Sorry this took a long time coming. So if you are having trouble moving on, examine yourself to make sure you were not looking to this person to fill you in ways only God can (1 John 5:21). When you let people get you out of character, you give them power and when you give them power, you give them the power to take your focus off Christ. Iâm not saying you have to be besties, but forgiveness is key. Sometimes the Lord will lead you to go to the person and talk to them in a gracious manner, seeking reconciliation. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. 3. Pray for them. The people who charge your inner happy and support you instead of bringing you down. Weâll look at this in my next post. So stop blaming yourself for someoneâs immature reaction towards you. It would mean she needed to accept what he had done to her and her familyâand be okay with it. You must take action and use spell to punish someone who hurt you. Suffering holds a message of comfort. Because you still feel the pain of the hurt, you may wonder if youâve fully forgiven. Sophia decided to do it; it was time to let ⦠I want you to Let It Go, and I am telling you to Let It Go & that you have my blessing to Let It Go, because it is harmful to you. God loves us and does not want others to harm us. Spell To Punish Someone Who Hurt You. I was so lonely I pray for God to send me someone I love this man moved in with me we live together for a year he had been in a relationship with another woman for a 19 years they had broken up he got upset with me and went back with her now heâs back in my life tell me that he love both of us I love him so much I donât know how to let go Iâm asking God to hear me You are innocent but they have wronged you. It doesnât happen just once and itâs over with. In her book 100 days of solitude, Daphne Kapsali says âI might be self-sufficient, but I am not self-containedâ¦asking for help sometimes is an invitation, a way to bring them in, to keep them closeâ. Or you can choose to live by Christ and bring your hurt to God. Resist the urge to get revenge. I put together some FREE prayer cards so that you can cut them out and have them handy for whenever you need. If you are having difficulties at forgiving someone, Or you have a feeling of resentment and hositlity towards someone who has hurt you in the past. Sometimes God removes someone from your life = Fool me Once Shame On you, Fool me again Shame on me. This does not need to be permanent. If you have been born into the family of God, you are a child of God. Moses answered the people, âDo not be afraid. When you repent, you take your heart back and give it to God. Other times He will lead you to forebear it, take it to the cross, let it go, and move on. Abuse is NEVER apart of God's plan for us. Your soul. God has a great future planned for you and He canât give it to you with dysfunctional people around you messing it up. Itâs a painful feeling but God can help. But do not hope this for those who have hurt you. 138. The enemy means to destroy you and your future, but God's redemptive power is released as you let God handle the burden of anger for you. Spell To Punish Someone Who Hurt You, In your course of life you will meet people who hurt you. You are brothers and sisters. Feeling like someone stabbed you in the back and betrayed you can be hard to process. You can get past anything someone did to offend you without it. If you decide to stay in that relationship even though you are not attracted to him and later on decide to break it off. So when someone wrongs you, donât put energy into them â put energy into the people who make you bloom. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. You are basically healing yourself. Keep in mind, Jesus was perfect and they still hated and hurt him. Need more prayers? But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, Matthew 5:44 NKJV The easiest way I have found to release someone who repeatedly offends ⦠Lift yourself up to God so that he can guide you on your path of healing. Jesus prayed âthat they all may be one, as You, Father, are in Me, and I in Youâ (John 17:21). Sometimes, people can dominate a relationship. God does not want us to be a Target for others to use and abuse. 135. Go to God and be honest â tell Him how you feel. Writing a letter of forgiveness to someone who hurt you is powerful and therapeutic. People always say you canât really explain why you feel a certain way about someone. The Egyptians you see today you will never see again.The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.â Prayer: God, I want to retaliate.I want to exact revenge on those who hurt me. Exodus 14:13-14. A true mark of maturity is trying to understand someoneâs hurt rather than trying to hurt that person just as bad as she hurt you. Accept the gift of Godâs forgiveness today, by turning to Christ and inviting Him to come into your life. I believe everyone who has been hurt by a boyfriend, husband, wife, or even a family or friend needs to write a forgiveness letter. I lift up my feelings of pain and hurt to the Lord so that he can comfort me. The thought of forgiving her father challenged Sophia. Set Yourself Up for Healing. If someone continues to hurt you, God certainly does not expect you to keep going back for more bad behavior, but he does expect you to continue to pray for that person. With His help, you can forgive the unforgivable. You teach us to âlet the peace that comes from Christ rule in our hearts.â ( Col. 3:15 ) When I forgive in words, allow your Holy Spirit to fill my heart with peace. Here are 5 Things To Do When People Hurt You⦠Instead love your enemies. Do good to those who have hurt youâ¦even if that means no longer communicating with them or any of their family or friends. I could write the words over and over again, but I realize it changes nothing. You will hurt him a lot and that is a horrible thing to do to your brother in Christ. God may remove someone from your life in order to bring someone else in. 137. In the words of J. Cole This is probably the biggest question, and the biggest obstacle to trusting God, in Christianity. When you have a good, personal understanding of why you are letting someone go, you will be more resolved to follow through with your plans. It is so easy to keep going back to a person who has hurt you, but you need to realize that things are not going to change anytime soon, no matter how much you wish they would. But sometimes itâs just not that simple. July 16, 2014 / 2 Comments. In suffering there is a message of unity. I think the question we should ask first is if itâs possible to hurt God. When people hurt you, donât try to get even. If you are going to talk to someone about how the other person has hurt you, make sure this person is a professional or a wise person you can trust. No! Were you hurt because your sin was exposed? The last time, I wrote on what to do when someone hurts us and I was asked to write on us hurting God. 139. Use these prayers to get through the pain. Put away the photos. Let God handle your hurt. Why you click with some people more than others or why you suddenly feel connected to a stranger. Pray for them. In some cases, it can even mean that you find gratitude for the situation, just as it was, and use it as fuel for your values, intentions, and goals. We were made to ⦠And thatâs the way we ought to be as Christians, one in Christ. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. When Hurt By Someone You Love â God will fight for you. Tit for tat only makes you as wrong as them. I could scream it at the top of my lungs and let the world know how you have hurt me, but the past will not hear me or pay me any mind. Forgive the people who hurt you and God will repay you for it. You do not need any sort of interaction from these people. It may hurt, but you also have to realize that it is the best thing that you can do. (For more on this topic, read the article, âIdentifying Idols of ⦠Also, God felt closer. 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